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To Dictate, or to Lead

30 May

A smart boss hires smarter people.

Is this shocking to you? Could you never imagine hiring someone who is smarter than you? Maybe they will take your job someday from you? Maybe they will make you feel foolish someday. Surely they will make you feel inferior. Until you get over these insecurities, you will remain a dictator, not a leader.

People who are dictators make demands of their employees. They set deadlines and tell their employees how to reach them, insisting that they follow their directions to the “T.” They punish their employees for their mistakes. They force their employees to either be miniature versions of themselves, or get out. They like to hire “yes” men. They demand fearful respect.

People who are leaders hire people they can trust to get the work done for them. They respect their employees for their knowledge, and praise them regularly for the superior work they do. They guide them in the right direction, but don’t tell them how to do it. They share with them the accolades for a job well done. They acknowledge their employees’ strengths and challenge them to keep those strengths honed. They ask for their educated suggestions, and use them. They earn their employees’ respect by default.

Which are you? I’m just sayin’…

Later, Me

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Overcoming Procrastination

03 Feb

I feel like I have two little angel’s on my shoulder, feeding me their input all the time. The evil one keeps telling me that I’ve failed before. The good one tells me that this project is different.

The evil angel fills my “extra” time with trivial things to prevent me from succeeding. Lately it’s been this really good book that I’ve been reading. Recognizing this evil angel as an external influence on me can make it easier for me to fight it. By giving it an imaginary mass on my shoulder, I can see myself flicking it off and getting going. I will make my book a treat to revisit after I have everything done. After all, that’s how I approach housework when I get home from work. If I include working on my project in the category with housework, that could become the more fun thing I do after I get the housework done, but before I read.

I see that the evil angel is parroting some very old habits and beliefs. I used to be a terrible procrastinator. I’ve worked on that for years, and have overcome it in most of my daily living. I continue to work on that continuously though, to prevent failure. Failure is only truly failure if you don’t learn something from it. If you learn something, then it was just a hard lesson that you can take something away from for the future.

I think it was my evil angel that told me to go ice-fishing this last weekend instead of working on my project like I was supposed to. My good angel made it a positive thing by giving me quality time with my husband (and a LOT of exercise!). I need to apply this kind of give and take to my thoughts when something trivial starts to take precedence over working on my goals – use both angels as influences to mold my project. Can this trivial thing work indirectly to help me toward my goal in some way? Maybe if I see it that way instead, I could get inspired. Oh, there I go again. I just DID get inspired to blog about overcoming procrastination. I can see my good angel praising me for a job well done already 🙂

Later, Me

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